When you’re single, it seems that literally everyone wants to give you advice on how to remedy this situation. The one constant that you’ll hear from both the single and coupled alike is this:
“If you stop looking, that’s when you’ll find someone.”
In other words, if you simply accept your singleness, it will almost immediately end according to these people. I call bullshit. This, to me, is like the saying “it’s always in the last place you look.” Of course it is! If I’m looking for my cars keys and I find them behind the desk, I’m not going to keep looking for them. I won’t walk all over my house thinking “I know my keys are in my hand right now, I see them there, I feel them there, but I better be safe and keep looking.” That’s why everything you find was in the last place you looked. You found it. The next time someone says that to you, you have my permission to slap them and call them a dumbass.
Back to the B.S. advice above. Everyone will tell you that they met their significant other as soon as they simply quit looking for them. They will say that they simply didn’t care if they were in a relationship or not, and then this wonderful human came along and swept them off their feet. To me, if you really didn’t care, you would’ve told this person that you weren’t interested in a relationship at the moment, but if they wouldn’t mind hanging out for a month or two, maybe it’ll go somewhere. But you didn’t say that. You immediately exchanged numbers or whatever. So it’s not that you stopped looking, you just told yourself you did and most likely you did that well after you started dating this person.
In other words, I see through your lies.
